McMillan says it's also essential to be truthful to yourself about a relationship, especially if there's a very big reason it's not working. "Chances are you're keeping a lot of the details about him to yourself," she writes of this kind of situation. "Not that you don't talk about him to anyone who will listen... you just conveniently leave out the shocking parts of the story. Instead of being married, he's separated... instead of being nineteen, he's really immature." McMillan says you have to examine what you're saying. "When you hear yourself making excuses this way, wave a red flag in front of your face," she writes. "Because you can be very sure that without some kind of intervention, the relationship is going to run into trouble, and the person who's going to have to deal with the aftermath is you."
Mark Sappenfield
Dear Reader,
About a year ago, I happened upon this statement about the Monitor in the Harvard Business Review – under the charming heading of “do things that don’t interest you”:
“Many things that end up” being meaningful, writes social scientist Joseph Grenny, “have come from conference workshops, articles, or online videos that began as a chore and ended with an insight. My work in Kenya, for example, was heavily influenced by a Christian Science Monitor article I had forced myself to read 10 years earlier. Sometimes, we call things ‘boring’ simply because they lie outside the box we are currently in.”
If you were to come up with a punchline to a joke about the Monitor, that would probably be it. We’re seen as being global, fair, insightful, and perhaps a bit too earnest. We’re the bran muffin of journalism.
But you know what? We change lives. And I’m going to argue that we change lives precisely because we force open that too-small box that most human beings think they live in.
The Monitor is a peculiar little publication that’s hard for the world to figure out. We’re run by a church, but we’re not only for church members and we’re not about converting people. We’re known as being fair even as the world becomes as polarized as at any time since the newspaper’s founding in 1908.
We have a mission beyond circulation, we want to bridge divides. We’re about kicking down the door of thought everywhere and saying, “You are bigger and more capable than you realize. And we can prove it.”
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